There are times [when our relationship] has plummeted to the depths whereby we were both ready to give up. A flicker of joy and recognition. The person they knew and love is still there, somewhere deep down inside. Those moments are what the person longs for. But it is nowhere near as hard as being the one with BPD. My girlfriend is not a burden, her BPD is.
Women With Traits of BPD: Regaining Her Trust
Women With Traits of BPD - Why Men Stay
According to author A. Mahari, it is important that you are aware and accept that that the person you love suffers from a Borderline Personality Disorder BPD. This relationship may become conflictual because a person with BPD struggles with intimacy and trust issues, and feels like she cannot rely on anyone. Therefore, she may demand certain things one minute, yet still feel that you may never meet her expectations, and withdraw further from the relationship. According to Mahari, a former sufferer of BPD, this can begin the cycle of codependency. Intimacy Mahari writes about the importance of developing boundaries.
Advice – Dating Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Make a Plan and Stick to It If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend with borderline personality disorder, dating them means that you will have to find a way to manage your behaviors so you can manage their behaviors. Coming up with strategies for dealing with your partner's extreme behaviors will help you keep your sanity. Think about your partner's behaviors and the effects those behaviors have on you. Make a list of all the behaviors your partner has that upset or frustrate you, including cases where your partner harms you. Devise a plan that will help you manage the behaviors so you can avoid imploding situations once they start and protect yourself so you are physically and emotionally safe.
Relationships per se are difficult. Two individuals come together — attraction, lust, love, personality styles, personal and family histories, attachment, and lifestyles collide — and there you are in the middle of a daring, challenging, and steamy relationship. Remember we all have personality traits, which does not make us personality disordered. Notoriously famous personality disorders discussed in films, courts, and domestic disputes are all part of the dramatic-erratic cluster: The film Fatal Attraction quite an excellent performance by Glenn Close and the recent court case of Jodi Arias come to mind.