Dear Captain Awkward, I am a 34 year old straight woman in an open marriage with a 39 year straight man. I have taken far more advantage of the openness of our marriage than my husband, at least until recently. I have had a string of long-term affairs and short-term flings. During the past 8 months I have basically been living with another man in a neighbouring town to the one I live in. I am drawn to men who are starkly different than my husband, who is an intellectual, moderate in terms of his vices and has a disdain for the type of men who spend every evening in a pub. I have a drinking problem but it is not a problem I feel any need to resolve and I am drawn to men who are also drinkers like me.
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I think I speak for all guys when I say avoid acting needy at all costs. Neediness has repelled me away from more women than I care to disclose. Am I Being Needy? A few clarifying points: Neediness, at its core, is a mindset. So what specifically is the neediness mindset? And the interesting part is that the more we put effort into a relationship with someone, the more invested WE become.
How exactly do you go from dating someone casually to having a serious relationship with them? Is it some secret, LSD fuelled desert ritual? Do you just… ask them? Why Do You Commit?
Prior to our meeting, I had mentioned that I had some news to share. I knew exactly what they were thinking, as I spoke about my newfound love interest, and him bussing the file that he had a kid. Alas, I admit, those were my exact words, but those words were also spoken by a much younger and not so much wiser version of myself. It very well depends on the man, and how serious he is about getting into a committed relationship. But getting to know him is what matters, right?